Sex With Emily

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode, Emily sits down with Amy Chan—founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart—to explore why we keep choosing the wrong partners and how to break the cycle. Amy shares her revolutionary 12-person dating experiment that forces clients to date outside their type, revealing how our "type" isn't about physical traits but the emotional patterns we unconsciously repeat. From spotting unavailable partners to understanding the difference between passionate love and companionate love, this conversation reframes dating as a discovery process rather than a high-stakes audition. Amy breaks down why great daters often struggle in relationships, how to recognize your recurring emotional patterns, and why your best friend you want to make out with might be the person you've been overlooking all along.



In this episode, you'll learn:



• Your "type" is an emotional pattern, not a physical one—by identifying the five main emotions from your last three relationships, you can spot the cycle you keep repeating (like anxiety from chasing unavailable partners) and consciously choose different experiences



• The dating experiment that rewires your brain—dating 12 people outside your type without getting into a relationship removes the pressure of finding "the one" and trains you to be present, recognize how you actually feel with someone, and notice who genuinely treats you well



• Why passionate love fades and what replaces it—the neurochemical high of early romance naturally transitions to companionate love, and understanding this shift helps you stop mistaking familiarity for incompatibility and start building the deeper intimacy that sustains long-term relationships



• The dating funnel approach—treating early dates like lead generation (just asking "Am I having fun? Do I want to see them again?") instead of evaluating someone as your future life partner eliminates job-interview energy and lets authentic connection emerge naturally



• Stop performing, start choosing—moving from "waiting to be chosen" to actively selecting partners based on how they make you feel (not just how they look on paper) puts you in control of your romantic life and attracts people who appreciate your authentic self





More Dr. Emily: 



• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).



• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.



• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.



• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure



• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website



• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube



• Let’s text: Sign up here



• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



This episode is sponsored by… 



Bellesa EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast"



Bathmate- https://bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily/v4/podcast



Timestamps:

Emily breaks down her 2025 Holiday Gift Guide through the lens of the five pillars of sexual intelligence—embodiment, health, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and collaboration.

She explores how shifting from performance to presence can transform your relationship with pleasure, offering curated tools and practices that help you slow down, feel your body, and understand yourself as a sexual being.

This episode is for anyone ready to move beyond quick fixes and embrace a more holistic approach to sexuality, turning intimacy into something that nourishes your whole system.



In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The five pillars of Sex IQ create a holistic framework for understanding your sexuality and taking responsibility for your pleasure—moving you from performance to presence

• Embodiment practices like breathwork and sonic wave toys help you overcome the mind-body disconnect during sex by bringing you back to physical sensations instead of staying in your head worrying about how you look or what you need to do

• Self-acceptance isn't about waiting for your body to change—it's about recognizing and reframing the pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) that tell you you're unworthy, and actively replacing negative thought patterns with affirmations that honor your body right now



More Dr. Emily:

 • The 2025 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide

• Apply for Emily's 1:1 Coaching Opportunity HERE or reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com for more information 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



Shop the Holiday Gift Guide now! (See the full Gift Guide HERE) 



Embodiment:

• LELO SONA 3- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com

• Common Confidential Massage Butter- Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at Commonconfidential.com.

• Cornbread Hemp - Use code SWE for a discount at cornbreadhemp.com/swe 



Health:

• Bathmate Hydro Pump-  Use SWE10 for 10% off your order at bathmatedirect.com

• HigherDOSE Infrared Sauna Blanket- Head to higherdose.com

• V-Health Vaginal Rejuvenation Gel- Use code EMILY10 for 10% off at getvhealth.com 

• Kroma Wellness Beauty Matcha Latte - Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off at kromawellness.com 



Collaboration: 

• Promescent Delay Spray- Head to promescent.com 

• LELO F2S- Use code EMILY20 for 20% on top of ongoing sales at lelo.com 

• Crave Leather Handcuffs- Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/crave 



Self- Knowledge:

• Magic Wand Mini - Head to shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand 

• Je Joue Hera Flex Rabbit Vibrator - Go to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code EMILY20 for 20% off 

• SmartSX- Head to sexwithemily.com/smartsx 



Self- Acceptance: 

• The Class - Head to theclass.com 

• Droplette- Head to droplette.io



This episode is sponsored by… 

Biolouve- Get 15% off with code EMILYPOWERMOVE @ https://biolouve.com/ 



Timestamps
0:00 - Introduction

1:25 - The 5 Pillars of Sex IQ Framework

2:36 - Pillar 1: Embodiment

10:23 - Pillar 2: Health

17:52 - Pillar 3: Collaboration

24:44 - Pillar 4: Self-Knowledge

29:39 - Pillar 5: Self-Acceptance

34:21 - Wrap-Up

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! 

⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast



Try Timeline today! Text “EMILY” to 57237 and claim your FREE 3-day Trial of Gummies. Your cells will thank you!



Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx

Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.



List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/

Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.



SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99)



Want more?

Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/





Episode Description



In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Chelsey Goodan—the teenage girl whisperer whose new book "Underestimated" is revealing what happens when we actually start listening to the demographic we've been underestimating for generations.



The surprisingly simple question that gets teenage girls to open up after years of shutting everyone out—and why the adults in their lives have been approaching these conversations completely backwards (hint: it's the same reason your last "how was school today?" got a one-word answer).



Why teenage girls can spot your hidden agenda from a mile away, and the radical honesty approach that creates trust faster than any parenting book you've read—even when you think you're being subtle with your "protective" white lies.



The age that girls start dieting that will make you rethink every compliment you've ever given a child—and the unconscious behavior women are modeling that's sabotaging the next generation's relationship with their bodies before they even hit puberty.



That thing you keep saying is "fine" when it's absolutely not fine, and how the people-pleasing patterns you picked up as a teenage girl are still running your sex life, your relationships, and every dinner party you've ever thrown.



The connection between your relationship to sex and your actual power that nobody talks about—and why embracing your "weird" might be the permission slip you need to stop performing and start feeling.



Plus: why giving girls agency doesn't mean abandoning your role as a parent, and the one body-related comment you should never make to a teenage girl, even when you think you're being helpful.





Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:24 - The Power of Radical Honesty in Building Trust

7:00 - Why Perfectionism and People-Pleasing Start in Teenage Years

11:44 - Sexuality, Consent, and the Double Standards Girls Face

18:14 - Slut-Shaming: How It Wounds Girls and What We Can Do

21:04 - Teaching Girls Their Anatomy: Why "Vulva" Matters

24:20 - Breaking the Cycle of Shame Around Sex

29:04 - Gen Z Friendships: Girls Supporting Girls Instead of Competing

32:35 - Healing Your Inner Teenage Girl as an Adult

38:43 - The Performance Trap: Why Girls Can't Get Out of Their Heads During Sex

43:09 - Overcoming Sexual Anxiety: Practical Advice for Women

46:24 - Body Image Wounds: How Moms' Self-Criticism Impacts Daughters

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! 
⁠⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠

Sponsored by Je Joue
⁠https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST⁠

Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠
Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠
Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ⁠ (free shipping on orders over $99)

Want more?
Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/





Episode Description



Jordana Abraham and Jared Freed from the U Up? podcast join Dr. Emily for a lively conversation about navigating modern dating without losing your mind. They kick things off with dating horror stories—including Jared's epic backwards fall off a patio chair that took out a sandwich board and a heat lamp.

The conversation dives into why so many dates feel like obligations instead of opportunities. Jared and Jordana explain the "sure, I'll go" trap—how settling for matches that are just "fine" leads to boring dates and dating burnout. They emphasize trusting your gut and only going on dates when you're genuinely excited, not just because you feel like you should.

They tackle dating app fatigue, discussing why some people thrive on apps while others find them soul-crushing. The key insight: it's about how you use them. Treating apps like a binge-worthy Netflix show instead of something you check in on intentionally (like one hour a week) kills the fun and makes everything feel transactional.

The episode includes a listener question about a toxic long-distance relationship where a 22-year-old woman keeps breaking up and getting back together with an insecure boyfriend who constantly asks "are you still into me?" Jared and Jordana break down why this is a mismatch built on drama rather than trust, why her friends are right to be concerned, and how to choose which friends to actually listen to when it comes to relationship advice.

They wrap with quickfire questions about turn-ons, turn-offs, what makes good sex, and the number one thing everyone should know: just because the sex is good doesn't mean the relationship is good.



Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

4:32 - Why "Sure, I'll Go" is Ruining Your Dating Life

10:09 - Dating App Profile Tips That Actually Work

12:43 - The Truth About Casual Sex on Dating Apps

18:13 - Are You Too Picky or Protecting Your Peace?

20:15 - The Ick Factor: When Small Things End Relationships

24:24 - Friend Zone Reality Check: When They're Not Into You

30:20 - Age Gap Sex Anxiety: Why He's Holding Back

33:24 - Toxic Long-Distance Relationship Red Flags

37:40 - Five Quickies: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE toy or gift card! 

⁠⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast



Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to ⁠https://qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY⁠ to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY.



Sponsored by Je Joue

https://www.jejoue.com/products/hera-flex-rabbit-vibrator?utm_source=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST&utm_medium=SWE-HeraFLEXPODCAST



Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx

Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.



List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/

Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.



SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99)



Want more?

Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/





Episode Description

In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Liz Moody—bestselling author, podcast host, and the woman who turned her life around from severe agoraphobia to help others level up their lives with science-backed strategies.

The morbid exercise that Liz swears by for making better decisions in bed and everywhere else—and why thinking about your 85-year-old self might be the permission slip you need to stop worrying about how your thighs look in those pants.

Why "friends with benefits" might mean something completely different to you than it does to your partner—and the crucial conversation most couples skip before slapping labels on their relationship (spoiler: this applies to marriage too).

The biggest myth about what makes someone "good" in bed, and why Liz believes your sex life can transform no matter where you're starting from.

That one body part you've never considered an erogenous zone—until Liz reveals hers and suddenly you're rethinking everything you thought you knew about turn-ons.

The real reason habits fail (hint: it's not about willpower)—and why letting go of routines that once served you doesn't make you a failure, it makes you self-aware.

Plus: the conversation starter deck that's saving marriages by getting couples on the same page about money, desire, childhood trauma, and the question "how much do you need to feel safe?" that revealed way more than Liz expected.





Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

2:00 - The 100 Ways Framework: Spring Cleaning Your Life

5:00 - Think About Your Death: The Power of Zoom-Out Perspective

8:07 - Micro Workouts: Movement for Mental Health, Not Body Size

9:55 - Rewire Your Brain for Happiness: The 5-Second Joy Practice

16:00 - Be the CEO of Your Household: Weekly Relationship Meetings

18:30 - Sex Starts When You Wake Up: Micro Intimacy Throughout the Day

21:47 - Why Communication Makes Sex Better After 15 Years

28:12 - Let Your Partner Surprise You: Breaking Free from Old Resentments

30:00 - Your Personal Bill of Rights (Including Sexual Rights)

32:05 - The Orgasm Gap: Why 20 Minutes is Normal

36:24 - Body Confidence: Your Body is for Living, Not Looking

42:01 - Boundaries as Energy Protection (Not Just Saying "No")

49:51 - Friends with Benefits to Dating: Defining Your Relationship

56:28 - Lightning Round: Biggest Turn-Ons & Sex Advice